Success and the pressure to be successful is something that surrounds us every day of our lives. From the moment we begin to talk people start asking us “What do you want to be when you grow up? When I was younger my response varied around the idea of being a princess. Then as I got older I started to get pressured into thinking about more “practical” career choices.
As an 8th grade kid I had to start thinking seriously about my education and where I wanted it to take me so that I could choose the right courses to begin my high school education with. This was terrifying! The advice around me constantly reinforced that based on the decisions I made at the young age of 14, I could limit both my chances of success and how much opportunity I would have when I grew up.
Then 12th grade hit (like a ton of bricks) with the notion that I must now choose a career for the rest of my life that would make me successful, rich AND happy. I kinda wish I could say that 18 year old me knew exactly what that was, but at the same time I’m 100% glad I didn’t. Why?
One thing I’ve learned is that you don’t truly learn until you fail. Yes. My advice? Fail more, don’t let the fear of failure hold you back. See it as an opportunity to teach you something magnificent.
As I begun travelling and inevitably “found myself” as everyone mimicked that I would. I realized something wonderful, yet terrifying all at the same time. I realized that I wanted to “provide something valuable that would be able to help others feel happy”. I knew that if I could achieve this while making a profitable income that I would feel successful. I also knew that the definition of value and happiness varies from person to person. I decided to narrow my focus to something that has always fascinated me from a young age: whether or not people loved their job. After gaining some clarity I decided to embark on a new business entrepreneurship. I underwent the training to become a certified professional business coach. Since completing the certification I have spent almost all of my spare time during the last four months reading books and listening to podcasts that relate to my recently discovered niche. I now know what it will take for me to feel successful and each day I allocate a specific amount of time to work towards achieving my new goals.
“Success happens when you wake up every single day and take the small steps you need to turn your big dreams into realities.” – Ross Simmonds
I’ve developed a list of 10 questions that will help you define what success means to you. Hopefully this will help you reestablish existing goals or develop new goals to conquer.
- When you’re 90 years old and looking back on your life what will make you feel successful?
- What will make you feel proud of the life you’ve live?
- How would you feel if you started to take action towards doing it now?
- How will you feel if you don’t accomplish this?
- What will it take for you to achieve it?
- Is it a long-term or a short-term goal?
- What challenges might get in the way?
- How will you overcome these challenges?
- What are you willing to sacrifice to accomplish this?
- What actions can you take TODAY towards achieving this?
We all have different goals that we want to conquer. Whether it’s raising a family, getting fit, writing a book, getting a promotion, or starting a business, goals excite and empower us. Coming up with new goals is exciting! Developing a plan to achieve your goals, sticking to them, and accomplishing them is even more exciting!
Don’t let that spark dwindle, stay inspired, and feel proud while looking back on your life when you’re old and wrinkly.
Until next time,
Kristyn Breeze xx